This book, “Forgotten How to Live” was both a deep personal voyage and extremely challenging to write due to the raw emotions and honest truth I had to face. It brought me back to parts of my past I wish to forget or never wish had happened. It filled me with intense emotions that bring a human being to a breaking point and most would not dare cross or endure. Imagine, the worst luck of everything that can go wrong in someone’s’ life happening at once. If someone told me this story with all of things that happened in their own lives, I would say, “boy this person sure knows how to tell stories.” In fact, it’s all true and they happened to me. My story involves moments of my life that have impacted and shaped me to who I am today. I will bring you into a world of immense emotions that will hit home with everyone who has heard or has had some of these situations happen to them or someone they know. Consequently, they all happened to one person, “me.”
After turning home from the Marines serving my country Honorably as a Scout Sniper, In a course of only 5 years, I was divorced twice, my son was kidnapped, my ex-wife’s alleged attempt to the solicitation of my murder, I lost both of my fathers, biological and adopted, both of my grandparents, as well as, nine close Marine buddies I served with that were killed in Iraq. I was in a motorcycle accident, and died three times, once during a life-flight to the hospital, twice on the operating table. This left me in a hospital for four months. Of the three times I died, I had 3 Near Death Experiences, one of which I go to what I perceive as hell and see and describe it in great detail. Physically, I developed short term memory problems. I had to learn how to walk again, regain most of my body’s coordination.
I became addicted to drugs and alcohol after my accident. My second wife filed for divorce taking my other son away from me teaming up with my first wife, to make a stronger case against me. I lost custody of my other sons, A vicious family law court battle ensued against unethical, relentless, and vicious attorneys’ coupled by a bias judge, mediators and counselors in the case using the fact that since I was a trained Marine Sniper, I was a danger to everyone. This crushed me to my core even after complying with all family law court orders & adhering to all random drug testing and passing, spemding over $200,000.00 in family law legal fees for an attorney who was useless.
For 6 years I fought to see my sons. While doing so, I went back to school, and received my degree in Psychology, becoming a counselor. I discovered of how flawed the system really was and how everyone conspires against parents, especially Fathers, by purposely and knowingly breaking ethics codes. I was asked to write reports that were in direct conflict of my own professional decisions (REPORTS I ETHICALLY IN GOOD CONSCIOUS REFUSED TO DO.) I expose the failing Sacramento Family Law System and a local drug testing facility that were collaborating against me with my first wife, risking their company license, later one of the employees was found guilty for altering drug tests & sentenced to prison. After getting my two ex-wives’ separated into two different courtrooms and Judges, I miraculously regain visitation with my son Brandon on the first court hearing.
The journey I followed to overcome these adversities, some from outside influences, some self-induced, are amazing lessons in itself .I hope this book will inspire others into redeeming themselves and create positive results from bad or negative situations. There is always HOPE.
I share advice from experience on how to combat the addiction of drugs and how to deal with family law system and staying sane while doing so. I discuss the resilience, which you need, on how to overcome these adversities. I also share addiction relapse issues and how to prevent it or change it with resources available to you and you’re family. I also cover the effect of returning home from combat to transitioning to the civilian world which was foreign to me as I walked down the street feeling alone & wanting to die.
The statements and most of this book came from court documents, FBI (Federal Bureau of Investigation), and Placer County District Attorney’s report. Interviews’ with my ex-wife’s friends’ and news reports, including Dateline NBC, which aired my story, are also included.
After turning home from the Marines serving my country Honorably as a Scout Sniper, In a course of only 5 years, I was divorced twice, my son was kidnapped, my ex-wife’s alleged attempt to the solicitation of my murder, I lost both of my fathers, biological and adopted, both of my grandparents, as well as, nine close Marine buddies I served with that were killed in Iraq. I was in a motorcycle accident, and died three times, once during a life-flight to the hospital, twice on the operating table. This left me in a hospital for four months. Of the three times I died, I had 3 Near Death Experiences, one of which I go to what I perceive as hell and see and describe it in great detail. Physically, I developed short term memory problems. I had to learn how to walk again, regain most of my body’s coordination.
I became addicted to drugs and alcohol after my accident. My second wife filed for divorce taking my other son away from me teaming up with my first wife, to make a stronger case against me. I lost custody of my other sons, A vicious family law court battle ensued against unethical, relentless, and vicious attorneys’ coupled by a bias judge, mediators and counselors in the case using the fact that since I was a trained Marine Sniper, I was a danger to everyone. This crushed me to my core even after complying with all family law court orders & adhering to all random drug testing and passing, spemding over $200,000.00 in family law legal fees for an attorney who was useless.
For 6 years I fought to see my sons. While doing so, I went back to school, and received my degree in Psychology, becoming a counselor. I discovered of how flawed the system really was and how everyone conspires against parents, especially Fathers, by purposely and knowingly breaking ethics codes. I was asked to write reports that were in direct conflict of my own professional decisions (REPORTS I ETHICALLY IN GOOD CONSCIOUS REFUSED TO DO.) I expose the failing Sacramento Family Law System and a local drug testing facility that were collaborating against me with my first wife, risking their company license, later one of the employees was found guilty for altering drug tests & sentenced to prison. After getting my two ex-wives’ separated into two different courtrooms and Judges, I miraculously regain visitation with my son Brandon on the first court hearing.
The journey I followed to overcome these adversities, some from outside influences, some self-induced, are amazing lessons in itself .I hope this book will inspire others into redeeming themselves and create positive results from bad or negative situations. There is always HOPE.
I share advice from experience on how to combat the addiction of drugs and how to deal with family law system and staying sane while doing so. I discuss the resilience, which you need, on how to overcome these adversities. I also share addiction relapse issues and how to prevent it or change it with resources available to you and you’re family. I also cover the effect of returning home from combat to transitioning to the civilian world which was foreign to me as I walked down the street feeling alone & wanting to die.
The statements and most of this book came from court documents, FBI (Federal Bureau of Investigation), and Placer County District Attorney’s report. Interviews’ with my ex-wife’s friends’ and news reports, including Dateline NBC, which aired my story, are also included.
What brought me back you ask? Well, that is another great part of the story, it all comes full circle with my fellow Marines who saved my life & continue to do so everyday within our community amongst many other things.
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